Dealing With A High Conflict Co-Parent? Here’s What To Do For A Smoother Custody Battle!

Going through a divorce in itself is a tedious process, especially if the other party refuses to let go without a fight. Despite all that, nothing beats going through it with kids involved. That can be considered one of the greatest court battles for many reasons, the main one being that you always have to look for your child’s interest first.

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Of course, some parents fail to consider their kids and even use them during the custody battle to spite the other parent. In dealing with such a “high conflict” co-parent, there are certain things you may want to do to increase your chances of success.

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Get expert support —

To have a better chance at dealing with a high conflict co-parent, it’s necessary to get expert support during the custody process. You may be thinking, “yeah yeah, I already know I need expert support”, but do you know why? For one thing it will help you keep the peace. A high conflict co-parent often manifests the following attributes that will rob you of your peace despite all your efforts to maintain it:

• They may use manipulation or outright lying to get the court professionals on their side. And we don’t want that.
• They work their hardest to alienate you from your kids; whether it be through painting a bad picture of you, making you look like the bad parent and they the fun one, or again just downright lying.
• They’re extreme or explosive. With such negative attributes, who knows what they’re gonna do next?

So, with an expert in your corner to advise you and help you understand the

psychological ways of that high conflict co-parent, you won’t only be able to maintain a peaceful battle but you’ll have much higher chances to win!

Get support outside of the judicial system —

One of the things you need to understand about a custody battle and dealing with a high conflict co-parent is that the judicial system can only do so much and not a lot more. It’s either of two things that prevent them from being able to support youthe way that you need:

• They’re unaware of or unable to understand what’s up with the high conflict co-parent, or
• They’re unsure of what to do about such an issue.
• The legal and therapeutic professionals are trained to deal with just what their titles indicate and nothing more. And because they’re unequipped to deal with and are sometimes manipulated by the high conflict co-parent, they won’t be able get the judge to rule in your favor. Talk about a downer! Therefore, you should get the extra support from other professionals.

Have a clear timeline and a plan —

What do I mean by this? Well, for your lawyer to be able to properly represent you and present your case to the judge he or she needs to first understand exactly what both of you are up against.

So, documenting a detailed narrative of events illustrating the reality of your high conflict co-parent will help your lawyer better grasp the situation. After this, you will both be able to better put your heads together and come up with a winning plan that will benefit both you and your kids.

Doing these three things are your best bet to go through a peaceful custody battle and win the case. Added to this it’ll save you time and a bunch of money as well as support your health and that of your family.

The best part is you don’t even have to pay a dime to do any of the three things listed above! The internet has provided a way for you to access tons of free resources to set you on your way to a successful custody battle with a high conflict co-parent — you only need to look.

So, what are you waiting for? Cut your court times in half by following my advice!